Saturday, December 18, 2010

3 months

Well we are approaching the 3 month mark........ wow, that's it!?! I feel like I have FINALLY gotten into a routine. I seems like the last couple of weeks have been going a lot smoother. I am sure a lot of it has to do with the fact I am no long in school and just strictly working/internship. I have 7 weeks left of internship and then hopefully I will be a EMT-P!! I am so excited. I have wanted this for sooooo long and have worked very hard over the last year as well as the last 9 years in EMS. It will be a good feeling to finally get this chapter accomplished.

I still have good days and bad days, however it seems like the bad ones are getting fewer and farther between. I get to talk to Ryan everyday. He has set up his iPod so he can text me throughout the day as well.......... wow, life it rough for us huh? :) I joke, but honestly it has helped me out tremendously to be able to hear from him everyday and know that he is safe. Skype-ing has gotten a little easier. It traumatized me for about the first 2 1/2 months. I would always just end up sitting in the dark office, crying as I looked at him. We have discovered we have to have short and sweet goodbyes. No lingering! "I love you to the moon and back, be safe, GOODBYE!" -hangup! I am also looking forward to our vacation in March. I am trying so hard to save money to be able to have an enjoyable vacation but since we have been a bit behind from Ryan taking time off before he left, it seems to be a harder task than I had anticipated. It seems like there is always something that comes up. This bill, or that bill, or some activity for the kids. Oh well, if it happens, it happens, if not I am just so looking forward to seeing him again. To touch his skin, or rub feet at night is something I have missed more that anything. I want my life and my home to feel normal again. There is such a big void missing from our home.

Well let the count down begin....... 87 more days till Floyd is home!!!

Saturday, November 20, 2010

Like father, like son......

So it is late and I need to go bed but I am having a rough night..... I went and saw Ryan's dad's band play tonight, The Fabulous Chancellors and can I say, they were quiet fabulous this evening!! It was fun to get dressed up and go out. It is not often I get to wear heels and a nice outfit, so I jumped at the occasion (the free tickets help too!) It was just hard though seeing Ryan's dad. He warms my heart whenever I see him and I am not even sure why. I was emotional to begin with just due to the fact that this would normally be something Ryan and I would go do together. We really enjoy going to his dad's "gigs" and so do the kids. So as I walk in and see Ryan's dad, I lost it. Tears right there in the middle of all these people who have no clue who I am or why the heck I am crying. Crazy lady alert!! It is just hard knowing the love that that man has for his son. A love that I have never seen before. It is more than a father-son type of love. It is a spiritual kind of love that these two men have made over the years. There have been rough times but I believe it has made that bond grow stronger. My husband is his fathers son. He has a love for his children that amazes me, a love that he has learned from his father. It it hard to drudge through day after day without that love in our home. It is hard to have your hero, the person you look up to and cherish, gone and I can see that in my son's eyes. I continue to do my best everyday for our kids but sometimes seeing the person who has made my husband the amazing, wonderful, kind person he is......... reminds me of what I am missing.

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Ativan kind of day!

Things wrong with today:

1. Madallyn apparently woke up the wrong side of the bed causing a fight before school. Causing me to be in a wonderful mood to start the day off!

2. My FT babysitter bailed on me. So now I have to find a new sitter for my crazy work schedule!

3. Madison and Connor decided to make a huge mess upstairs and then didn't want to clean it up. They decided it was more fun to play then clean, causing Madison to be late for school. Or then when you tell her to hurry up she just stands there and stares at you like you have a third eye!

4. THE DOG! Ryan's dog to be exact! Is a gigantic PAIN IN THE ASS!! If he is not jumping the fence to tear up the neighbors trash, he is peeing ALL OVER my house, or hiding from me when it is time to go into the kennel so I can leave to go to work! So we now have ourselves a KENNEL DOG! End of story!

5. I have to go paint the parade float for work today and DO NOT have the time to do it!

6. I want a gym membership and do not have a gym membership! I AM SICK OF BEING FAT!!!!!

7. We are still broke and now Ryan doesn't want to go to Disneyland during his leave! How do we break that to the kids who think we are going to Disneyland during his leave?!

It is noon and I am already over this day!!!!!!

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Need to breathe.......

I have decided I need a place to vent. To let out my thoughts. A place to talk to someone even though there is no one there to speak to. I have so many thoughts and feelings that go through my head on a daily bases, I have to have an outlet...... well this will be it. I know this is suppose to be a blog about my family and I am sure it will have some posts about our life over the next year however I also feel the need to start a journal to get out how I am feeling......

Some days are hard. Some days I am so overwhelmed I can not even think straight. I miss my husband. I miss my rock. The person in this world that makes me feel like I can take on the world. The person that makes me feel strong and confident and beautiful. I feel so selfish for even crying or complaining about my life. My husband has "lost" everything. His home, his children, his life as he knew it. I can not even imagine what he is going through. To go from sleeping in your warm, king size bed with your wife, to sleeping on a twin size BUNK BED! To have to eat the same breakfast everyday. To live with 60 other guys in a cold, brick building. He said he feels like he is in prison. I could only imagine! He called me the other day and said for once, for once in the last 7 weeks he felt normal because he was sitting at a cafe drinking a mocha....... seriously, I have one everyday. Something so simple, I take for granted everyday, made him for 10 minutes feel like himself. My heart breaks for him. My heart breaks for our children. Connor can not go an hour without saying how much he misses daddy and wants daddy home. He tells me he is going to wait for daddy to get off the airplane.That he wants to go to the airport and pick up daddy. Last night there was a knock on the door and Connor went running to the door yelling "daddy, daddy." How do you explain to a three year old, that daddy is gone and will not be back till after you turn four...........
The girls get it. It is still hard for them but at least they understand that he is gone and will be gone for a while. They are doing great in school and have had minimal issues at home. We talk about him a lot and try to call as much as we can. It will get harder due to the fact he is leaving Mississippi this week. No more phone, no more internet whenever he wants. We have been lucky enough to have our Blackberry's so we can continue to talk or text throughout the day. That has helped me out a ton!
I feel like I am walking around a zombie. I am so overwhelmed with the day to day stuff of my life. Bills (holy shit, bills!!!!) the house, the kids, school, work, everything! Nothing seems to be easy. I am gone 5 days a week due to school/work and when I am home I am so exhausted and depressed, I have to do things to keep myself busy or I will just sit on the couch all day. I feel like I am mess on the inside, trying to keep it all together on the outside. I have to be strong. I have to continue to function or everything will all fall apart. I try not to let the kids see me cry or stressed but sometimes it is just too hard not too. It has only been 7 weeks........... ugh!
I am not meant to be a wife of a deployed solider........... I am just not strong enough!

Monday, May 25, 2009

So little time....

I am so bad at this. I read so many other people's blogs all the time and think "I need to update mine, and post all the great pictures I have of all the fun things we have been doing, ie: Race for the Cure, Mad's dance recital, first ever Miller family camping trip, Auntie's visit, yada, yada, yada"
I have so much to catch up on and so little time to do it. I try at work and then get called out.....and then I realize I don't have all the 15 million pictures I took of the event. I will
try to get caught up some day and make this blog a bit more entertaining....I promise!!!
Today is Memorial Day
and I would like to add...
I am so thankful and proud of my husband and all the other brave
men and woman who risk their lives everyday for our freedom!!
I hang my flag outside my house EVERY DAY with pride!!

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

I'm not so good at this.....

So I haven't been too good at keeping up on our blog. My bad!

So some new things:

1. My little Mad dog will be 7 tomorrow!! I can't even believe it, it makes me so sad, she has gotten so big. She tells me about her boyfriends at school and how we have to have a "boy" birthday party so her "boy" friends could come. :(

2. We have FINALLY made up our minds on what to do about the whole house situation and....WE MADE AN OFFER ON A HOUSE!! It is beautiful, wonderful and perfect!! It is a short sell going into foreclosure so I hope that they will accept our offer. It is just a waiting game now...

Hopefully that link will work. This is "our" home!!

3. Ryan and I still love our jobs and are doing great! And our schedules worked out this next go around to where we actually get days off together! I don't even know what we will even do with ourselves. We have not had days off together in over a year!! We are hoping to do some camping this summer with the kids and grandpa.

4. Connor is growing big and obsessed with cars!! I'm not even sure the word obsessed is enough to describe his child. They must go everywhere with us, outside, in the car, to bed, while we eat...ya that bad!

I will try to keep up on this a bit better. Ryan actually found the link the other day and read my little blog. He thought it was the coolest thing so.....maybe someday there will be a posting from him, wishful thinking I think :)

Thursday, January 29, 2009

In the beginning....

So....I have joined the ban-wagon and decided I would blog! I am not so sure how well I will be able to keep up with this, but I will sure give it a good try. I am hoping with this I will be able to keep our friends and family updated on the day to day's of the Miller clan and the ever changing lives of our children.

I guess to start off I will update those who need to be updated: Ryan and I got married July 21, 2007. It was a beautiful little ceremony with all of our wonderful friends an family. We called every body on Wednesday and said "Hey we are going to get married on Saturday, you got any plans?" Ya, it was a bit of a spur of the moment thing but we kinda had a deal line to meet......I was 9 months pregnant with Connor and due any moment!! We had a good friend of ours marry us....who just so happen to be the pastor at the prison where Ryan and I met.... we were both officers not inmates :) it really meant a lot to us to have a great friend marry us. It was a simple 10 minute ceremony (maybe because it was a 102* out that day!!) followed by a fabulous pot luck and burgers. It was a great day and a beautiful ceremony!! It was all about us and our GROWING family! We are currently living in Kuna, Idaho which is about 8 miles south of Boise. It is a quiet little town with a great family atmosphere. We have a cute little 4 bedroom/3bath house with plenty of room to a 1/4 acre of lawn!! Our backyard is HUGE and that is where we seem to spend most of our summer days......whether it's watching the kids swim in the pool, swing on the swing set, jump on the tramp or just laughing at Ryan drinking his iced tea on his riding lawn mover he just HAD to have!!

Madallyn Ann is now 6 1/2 going on 16. She is sassy just like her mom and full of life. She is really into Hannah Montana (cause what 6 year old isn't??) and any thing out doors..... gee who does that sound like!! She does dance once a week, soccer, girl scouts, and she is thinking about softball this spring too. She is our little go getter. She is on her 4 year of skiing this year and is hard to keep up with. She fly's down the mountain. She has become pretty brave on her little dirt bike too. She has her first race this weekend. She is doing great in school and she loves to read....just like her Auntie. She just got a great report card and it at the top of her class!!
Madison Lynn is now 3 1/2 and has her daddy wrapped around her finger like I nothin have never seen!! She just has to look at him, bat those big brown eyes and it is all over. She is out little princess. She has such an Innocent personality you can't help but just want to squeeze her. She is in dance as well and is doing so great. It is her calling!! Every time we go to drop her off all the other parents say "theres that little dancing queen, there's that little super star!!" She looks too darn cute in her little outfit too!! Her little world revolves around Dora and daddy (not a bad combo.) She loves to play outside and she is diffidently our little helper. You ask her to do something and she is right on it. She is so smart and loves to read with her sister, we are hoping this spring to get her into a pre-school.

Connor Ryan is now 18 months (today actually) and is 100% boy!! It is unbelievable the difference between our girls and him. He is so busy and into everything!! He does not stop. Even in his sleep he's still movin a groovin. He is momma's boy through and through. Ryan makes fun of us for it but he is diffently my little guy. He is always about 2 steps behind Madallyn and copying whatever she is doing. He loves trucks, trains, bugs, blocks, anything that is boy!! (they must be bread like that) He doesnt talk much...not sure if it's because his sisters always talk for him of if he really doesn't have much to say, but he always seem to get his point across.

Ryan and I are doing fabulous!! Our first year of marriage have brought some hard days and a couple of extra pounds but we wouldn't trade it for anything!!! We are working hard on our careers and making some good advances. Ryan just took a position with a local Sheriff's department as a Deputy Sheriff. After 5 years of being at the prison, it was a hard leap to take (and a bit of a pay cut) but it will benefit him in the long run. He will have better advances as well as better education. We are all really proud of him and his hard work!!

I am working for a Ada County Paramedics as an Advanced EMT. We are the 911 transport units for the county. We have 13 different stations/ambulances through the valley, covering 5 different cities. It is a great job and I love it!! I am hoping to start Paramedic school in the fall. It is great to only work 2 days a week, work 48 hours and be home with the kids 5 days a week!! Can't beat that!!

My sister told me the other day when she was home for Christmas..... that our parents seem to be like 'crack' to my children.....and it is true!! They can not get enough of Grandma and freak out when she leaves the room, let alone the house. And of course Grandpa and all of his fun toys!! Dad is now retired and comes over to visit about once a week (of course I have to feed him.) It is fun for him and for the kids. Mom is wonderful and helps us with child care when she can....which seems to be about once a week, whether for our need or hers :)